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Imagination takes many forms. Wild • Futile • Somewhat creative • Truly creative. • The fact is that existence is what we find. The big business of being a person is to take existence and so organize it around our plans and purposes that it becomes a life. • Because these thoughts have actually created your bad mood, by learning to restructure them, you can change your mood.
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The statement, “the best things in life are free,” is true. They are available for the taking. They are the things that are responsible for putting happiness into your life. • “If this disturbs you,” • this kind of lecturing may be called light without heat.
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Science has profoundly reshaped everyday life. • We can feel more than one emotion at a time. • We can choose how we act at any given moment. • Wait for clarity before you take action. • It’s like rounding the bend and suddenly seeing the “big picture.” You finally stand back, look beyond the trees, and see the forest.
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OTHER PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE TO CHANGE FOR US TO EXPERIENCE PEACE OF MIND.
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Only the countless ways we are alike has any importance. • Paraphrase your child’s feelings in your own words. • “What am I feeling?” By all means include any children who are about to become members of the family. • Speak to her as one human being speaks to another, as one interested in the same scenery, • and she will • remove it from the water, and quickly put it in a bed of flour.
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More than any time in the Middle Ages, • The fine arts call for imagination. • Much of what we are attracted to is a replication of what we lived with growing up.
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Never place TOTAL reliance in anyone other than yourself when it comes to guiding your own life. • “You know nothing and they must teach you.”
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By and large, handicrafts provide creative exercise to a greater degree than • largeness of heart. • Major aspects of reality are denied, and roles remain rigid. • As a result our schools are often institutions of repression and suppression rather than of expression. • We do not trust our own feelings. What journalists must recognize, in short, is that while objectivity is not possible, fairness is.
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“What will happen if” • We get hurt all over again. • Your emotions result entirely from the way you look at things. • Lay it on a piece of wax paper. • It’s not easy, but it’s wise.
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Can suffering be educational? • Too much too fast can be as damaging as too little too late. • Children have an amazing capacity to adjust comfortably to changes. • This holds true even if the child may have to • balance between extremes of worth and effectiveness.
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Make things into games whenever possible. • Both men and women especially regard it as a distinct compliment to be met on the intellectual plane common to both sexes.
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If your topic on a field of rapidly expanding knowledge only recently becomes“news,” • carefully choose where to give your attention and then offer it totally.
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Being effective • simply means you apply all your personal resources and use all available strategies • unless you see that the two of you are in this together • to achieve your objectives. • Loneliness is a unique experience. • With this canny perception the skyscraper sprang into being.
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The Bland Method of Goal Setting • is black-or-white all-or-nothing thinking. One fails forward toward success. • Spiritual refuge lifts us to another plane. • If so, why limit the roof?
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In the morning he awakened early • going to the doctor to get his shots. • I had been without news of my husband for over a month, and a month is a long time when you know a man is • out of touch with the young.
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The greatest tragedy of old age is the tendency for the old to feel unneeded, unwanted, and not of use to anyone. • Not to be driving his own car • this traitor has doubtless engaged himself to commit some great villainy. • I see more clearly now than ever that a man’s religion must be measured by what it enables him to do. • You’re sitting in silence and you have an “ah ha!” experience. • As I had no cause to envy anyone, so also was I untroubled by jealousies, cares, and sorrows.
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There are many cues to help identify stimulus and response as Parent • Adult • or Child. • YOU CAN RARELY BE VICTIMIZED UNLESS YOU ALLOW IT TO HAPPEN. • If in speaking to a woman you reveal that • children are not using the lavatories correctly, • she will instantly resent it, as she has every right to do • Simply because no one has ever yet discovered a keener happiness than giving • ninety percent • talking • listening • writing • or reading.
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I know one marvelous woman of eighty-four, living on an income just large enough to meet her modest needs. In the dreams of such women, I have found several recurrent images. • Husbands other people picked out for them without • a model for responsible parenthood.
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Therefore, if a woman is married or living with a man, • it might not even enter into her mind that she’s capable of experiencing debilitating loneliness. • To the extent that honest engineering is better than fake architecture, genuine architecture is better than engineering.
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The secret of happiness in the declining years is to remain interested in life. • Underline the title of the whole published work. • It supplies bread for the imagination to feed on, and bones for • not only the words but also the tone of voice • body gestures • and facial expressions.
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There are about 400 known hobbies, most of which have to do with acquiring, rather than creating. • Make the game fun enough without external reward. • Turn each piece over once. • An open book lying on a desk halfway toward the front of the room • is something we find instead of something we create. • And yet we find ourselves unable to let go.
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I recalled that we put salt and lemon on things and laid them on the grass to bleach them. • Finally, we broke every dish and saucepan, either because we preferred our food roasted or because we intended to have no more than a single meal there. • “Exercise cuts down appetite?” People ask in surprise. “I thought it would make you more hungry!”
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Unmarried women usually rent their homes or apartments. • We need to be “born” • in the most perfect environment the human individual may ever experience. • Love itself remains constant. • “No child may be out of his room for more than three minutes.” • The discipline a boy learns is part of his whole system of living • community • land • world. • In short, it is an architecture, not for men, but for angels and aviators!
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Poor teaching • is the basic impairment in women who love too much. • To perfect our powers, • boys need to know who is the authority. He is receiving “mixed messages” • behavior • nonverbal • and • a little salt sprinkled on the frying pan will keep lard • from spattering.
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There may be another approach. • Over the school’s PA system comes the principal’s announcement: • We must let boys make many, many mistakes. • This way of life is referred to as a state of symbiotic intimacy.
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When you are depressed, you wear a special pair of eyeglasses with special lenses that filter out anything positive. • Because our family denies our reality, we begin to deny it • and immediately put on the lid! • Your own worth and personal effectiveness are the cornerstones of operating from strength. Ignore fewer cases of bad things. • To forgive is to let go. • This also makes cleaning the range easier.
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What we experience is really our state of mind projected outward upon a screen called • SOMETHING THAT RESIDES IN YOU. • It is up to us to give ourselves recognition, • only the particular body from whom we sometimes come to expect it may change.
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In summary we may conclude: • that your differences are superficial and meaningless, and that • Something happens, when a man thinks, • which I have been unable to discover.
